How can I stop being judgmental of people?
A Quoran was struggling with this classic struggle.
This is part 2 of 4 of a series called, “Moments that Make a Difference”.
In case you missed it, here’s part 1.
I stopped judging people all the time when I realized that everyone has their own unique set of experiences (or lack thereof) that led them to their current perspective.
Regardless of how stupid, pointless, or seemingly silly I find someone, it is quite safe for me to assume that they have had a completely different set of experiences as I've had.
Therefore.
It is completely ridiculous for me to expect them to see the way I see things or write them off because I don't like or agree with their line of thinking.
They simply do not know any better.
Do you judge babies for being useless other than pooping, crying, eating, and sleeping?
I'd hope not...
Hopefully, you understand their lack of experience and that they are still learning and growing.
They only know what they know, so they are the way they are until they learn otherwise. It's like that old adage goes... "Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in their shoes."
Better to live in curiosity and seek first to understand before assuming you know the whole story. Plus, it's less frustrating that way (like you said, it feels terrible) and people become a riddle to solve and understand instead of nuisances that you scoff at and write off.
Also, when you live in a place of curiosity, people will like and appreciate you more -- that''s a nice feeling.... It's like that other adage goes, "You become interesting when you become interested."
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