If nobody likes me for who I am should I change myself?
tldr; it's not worth it...
If you change yourself and still nobody likes you, will you change again?
If you change yourself and everybody likes you, will they still like you in 5 years? In 10 years?
What if you change yourself and half of the people like you, and the other half don't? How will you live? Two-faced?
What if you change yourself and a third hate you, a third love you, and a third are indifferent? What will you do then?
The reality is that if you devote your life to try to get people to like you, you will end up trying to please 100 different people who all have different opinions.
This is tiring, unsustainable, and you will end up losing your sense of identity rather than finding it.
Don't build your life around trying to measure up to opinions that constantly change.
Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Right now, as you are.
Decide what is important to you. Decide what kind of person you want to be, and then pursue that.
Hold yourself to your own best self, not the "shoulds" and "oughts" championed by the media, celebrities, pop culture, or what people say on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.
It's not worth sacrificing your identity on the altar of popular opinion.
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