How do I control my shy nature and gain self-confidence?
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In many ways, confidence is a byproduct of mastery.
You could be shy about social interaction because you simply aren't familiar with it, just like how you could be shy with dancing, sports, playing an instrument, or public speaking because you're not familiar with them.
If you've ever been very good at something, usually you're confident about it. You've done it a hundred times, you know it inside and out, you know all the nuances.
The first time you rode a bike you probably weren't confident. But after riding it time and time again, you became more and more confident in it and you probably wouldn't have a problem now, if I asked you, "show me how to ride a bike!"
Like learning to ride a bike, take baby steps.
One step at a time.
You might make a mistake.. but don't be fearful of mistakes, it's how you learn! And after more and more attempts, you start to become more and more confident. Soon, you won't have a problem making sharp turns, going very fast, and maybe even pop a wheelie.
This is with everything in life. If something is unfamiliar, that's ok, practice! Have someone coach/teach you if they are willing. Take a small step. Get better, learn, and then take another step. Rinse, wash, repeat.
Shyness and the lack of confidence are not the same as the ability to learn. You can learn, you can grow, it's possible to be very confident in who you are and be comfortable in your own skin.
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